It’s okay to acknowledge the pain, but it’s equally important to acknowledge that new beginnings open your eyes and open your heart thus changing your life. In fact, that pain will be temporary compared to staying where you are. The endings may sting with pain as well, but the sting to the endings won’t last forever. The question is…How bad do you want it? When the pain of where you are is worse than your circumstance and your routines, then you will engage in necessary endings. Your tomorrows can be different from today. Actions must follow the direction in which your “hope” points in order for routines and life to change. Many people “hope” things will change, but “hope is not a strategy.” Hope is an important element for change, but hope by itself is the only hope. The good news is that you can get out of the rut and get on track for healthy new beginnings. Pay attention to the pattern and how it affects you and those around you. If you aren’t sure how you’re truly spending your time, then I encourage you to monitor your daily routine for a full week. What do you need to end in your life so you may experience better health?ĭo your eating habits need a new beginning? It’s time for new beginnings which start with necessary endings!Īre you ready for life-changing necessary endings? And your business or employer is noticing that your “routines” are not promising for your best health or for the business’. Your friends stop calling because you don’t engage with them as often as you used to, except for maybe on Facebook. Your kids stop asking you to come outside and throw the ball around because they know you’ll say, “Not right now,” and the NOW never seems to come around. It’s affected not only you but the people around you as well. The routines you’ve established have left a mark on how you look, feel, and act. Or maybe you’ve nestled up to your computer to live vicariously through others via social media. You’ve always come home from work, made dinner, then plopped in front of the T.V. Save your best for the best.How often do you stay where you are because it’s what you’ve always done? Whether it’s a job, relationship, habit, methodology, or strategy, shying away from necessary endings will leave you weighed down, structurally unsound, and a shell of what you could be. You are a limited resource.Ĭonsider what areas of your life (or business) need pruning. Though art and music were bearing good fruit, they weren’t the fullness of what I wanted to do with my life. Music was a strength and opened many doors for me.īut I realized in my thirties that I had to prune music from being first place in my life in order to grow further. When I discovered music, I put art on the back burner. I won some awards and thought about being a comic book artist. But you have to accept that you can’t do all of them equally well, especially if you’re creative or entrepreneurial.Įarlier in life, my concentration was in art. You may have overlapping ideas and abilities. Over-relying on a strength makes it a weakness.Ĭhances are you are producing more than you can carry. But we can also become so enamored with the good things that are happening that ending them seems sacrilegious. Isn’t this such a great picture of personal or organizational growth? We often sprout fruit before we’re fully able to carry it. Pruning strips away the excess buds that weigh the plant down. The wireframes allow the plant to carry the weight of the fruit it is already bearing. It produces more than it can provide for. The plant doesn’t bear fruit once it’s fully mature actually the tomatoes grow as the plant grows. You produce more fruit than you can carry.Įver see those wireframes gardeners use to help plants stand up? I never understood this until I saw how much time gardeners spend propping up tomato plants. It’s not always easy and it often hurts, but shying away from necessary endings is a silent killer. The life application here is that for you to fully grow, you’ve got to be okay with endings. One of the main illustrations in the book has to do with pruning: the selective removal of buds, unhealthy branches, or deadwood to help a plant grow and reduce the risk of it becoming structurally unsound. I highly recommend it, and I re-read it every year. One of my favorite books (it’s in my top 3) is Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud. A wise person once said, “To say yes to one thing means you have to say no to other things.” But one thing I’ve come to realize is that endings are just as normal and necessary. Like many people, I get excited about new beginnings.
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